Author Probal Mazumdar throws light on coping mechanisms for lost love
According to you what would be the best coping mechanisms for a lost love? Can it actually be attained?
Yes. It can and must be attained!
The best way to cope with tragedy or trauma is to just let it fade away on its own, as much as possible. Feeling angry with the world and being disillusioned is fine. Crying is okay. Feeling vulnerable and helpless is natural. And so it is the same for lost love, I feel.
Different emotions within can be imagined to be different people residing within each of us. Mr. Happiness tries to hold the hands of Mr. Sadness and leads him towards his side. But most of the times Mr. Sadness drags and clubs down Mr. Happiness. It is a tug of war...
Mr. Happiness needs to be stoked, stirred, even coddled, to be the solution he is supposed to be. For the grief one sees in a lifetime, many questions arise and muddles up the mind. And for all questions humans have tried to answer it with the help of frameworks. Mr. Happiness tries to listen to the answers in all these frameworks.
And so some find the answers and solace in the framework of spirituality, some find it in a religion, some in astrology and some in science. Mr. Happiness chooses the framework that suits his/her rationale.
At the same time I believe when tragedy hits, being part of a group of friends and relations can help a lot. As much as freely expressing the pain and the vacuum one feels inside.
And in between the start and end of this stress, something takes place within some of our souls. Something silent, something beautiful, something unexpected. Like the body impregnated with a seed - like the necessity to write, or paint or learn music or the desire to engage with some arts. Or maybe even the wish to find new love.
If the lost love is not irretrievable, then one must attempt to find it back, whether he succeeds or fails. This is what my novel, “Key To My Soul” deals with.
And if the lost love is irretrievable, then one must shake hands with Time and choose a path that will bring back Mr. Happiness to his deserving throne, as soon as possible.
About the Author
Probal Mazumdar works in an IT company. He is an NIT engineer by societal pressure, singer by accident, guitarist by love at first sound, poet by soul, writer by passion, a world class badminton player in childhood dreams, rebel by day, recluse by night, a samosa in a family of laddoos, a Jughead at the dining table, a shameless and congenital dreamer.
Oh! An arsonist too – when his wife is not around, sets his own house on fire with his little son.
He won the FIRST prize in the All India Poetry Competition, 2014, conducted by PSI (Poetry Society of India). Click on www.indianpoetry.org/awardsgeneral14.htm
His other poems have risen too from cold storage into literary journals like Indian Literature (Sahitya Akademi), Wasafiri (U.K. Vol. 67), Acumen (U.K.), OtherPoetry (U.K.), Chandrabhaga Literary Journal (Editor Jayanta Mahapatra), Dhauli Review, amongst others.
He writes short stories too. This is his first foray into writing a novel.
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Ponni's Beloved
Volume 1. New Floods
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Sumeetha Manikandan
Blurb
Kalki Krishnamurthy’s Ponniyin Selvan is a masterpiece that has enthralled generations of Tamil readers. Many authors have written phenomenal books in Tamil literature after Kalki Krishnamurthy, but Ponniyin Selvan remains the most popular, widely-read novel. It has just the right mixture of all things that makes an epic – political intrigue, conspiracy, betrayal, huge dollops of romance, infidelity, seduction, passion, alluring women, unrequited love, sacrifice and pure love.
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Excerpt
“I have brought important information for all of you. That’s why I asked the noble Sambuverayar to invite us all here. Maharaja Sundara Chola’s health has been steadily deteriorating. I secretly asked our royal physician, and he says that there is absolutely no chance of his health improving. His days are numbered. And it is up to us, to think about the future of the royal throne.”
“What do the astrologers say?” asked one of the noble men.
“Why ask the astrologers? Haven’t you seen the comet that has been appearing in the sky, for the past few weeks? They say whenever a comet appears, there will be death in the royal family,” said another.
“I have asked the astrologers as well, and they say that the king might live for some more time. Anyway, we will have to decide who should ascend the throne next,” said Pazhuvetarayar.
“What is the use of discussing that now? Aditya Karikalan was made the Crown Prince two years ago,” said one of the noblemen.
“True. But before he took that decision, did Sundara Chola consult any of us? We all have stood by the Chola Kingdom with loyalty and have sacrificed our sons and grandsons in the battlefield. Even now warriors from each of our clans have gone to Elangai to fight for the Chola Kingdom. Don’t you think we deserve the right to be consulted about who should be the next heir to the throne? Even King Dasaratha asked his council of ministers, before deciding to crown Rama. But our Sundara Chola didn’t think it necessary to consult anyone…”
About the author
"Sumeetha Manikandan is a top bestselling romance author whose novellas ‘Perfect Groom’ and ‘These Lines of Mehendi’ (which was published as a paperback novel called ‘Love Again’) have been on the top of Amazon India charts ever since its publication. A bookaholic, thinker, feminist and a daydreamer, she reads across genres and is a crazy fan of history, romance and science fiction novels.
An avid reader of historical novels, she has been translating Kalki Krishnamurthy’s classic Tamil novel Ponniyin Selvan for the past ten years and hopes to translate more of his novels to English.
Sumeetha is married to filmmaker K.S. Manikandan and lives with her nine-year-old daughter in Chennai."
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Probal Mazumdar, author of 'Key to My Soul', speaks to Sanchita Sen
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Authors put there heart and soul into their stories. And how exactly? Read on to know more about this emotional journey and much more:
But finally when Sidd learns about the sacrifice his father had made for him, by even putting his life in danger for his son, the meaning of fatherhood became clear to Sidd. That was a moment of transformation, of learning, of understanding the true nature of human bonds, of values, of family. Articulating these moments within the story got my eyes wet many a times. The emotions ran high within me and so they are very special to me.
Sanchita: As a debutante novelist, what is your take home from the reviews that you are getting for your novel? Also describe to us how exactly did you receive the first feedback of the book after it was published and with how much anticipation were you awaiting it?
Probal: The reviews so far have been quite encouraging. For a first time novelist, reviews are worth
in gold and mean a lot. At this point the appreciations for my book seem to be more than the criticism. I hope the balance does not tilt too much the other way. But the criticisms I have seen are valuable, and I wonder if there were ways to get those before the book release.
Reviews, positive and negative, are points to ponder on. When the book was first released online and in select stores, I was away from home and so had asked the publisher not to mail the author copies to me until I reached home. The first news about the book came to me from an unexpected reader who was my school junior and we had lost touch since we left school. He was one of the first buyers and received the copy of the book even before I could see how it looked. The sense of loss of not being able to feel the book in my hands was immense. I guess my friend could feel my unrest and so he emailed me a picture of my book and said the cover and design looked neat. Within a few days he had sent me an offline feedback and applauded the book. Needless to say, it was a terrific feeling.
Sanchita: Tell us more about the ‘letter from your beloved’ that got you started on this novel?
Probal: In an unusual morning, in 2008, Siddharth (Sidd), a lonely young man, receives a mysterious call from an anonymous caller, about his childhood friend, Hazel. He is told that she is hospitalized in
Jamshedpur, battling for life after a serious accident. Then the caller, urges him to come over urgently. The behest is due to the uncertainty of Hazel’s survival and due to the possession of certain old letters of Hazel the caller wants to give Sidd. Hazel was Sidd’s first love. Someone he is still unable to forget despite 17 years of separation. He ponders what her letters might hold. The letters are the crux of the story. They open up an eclipsed past buried in time that is riddled with dangerous surprises, trauma, twists of fate, sacrifices that exemplify true love and the real reasons for the tragic end of their childhood love story. The letters lead Sidd to Hazel’s past and contains the Key to her Soul.
Sanchita: When is your best time to write and how long did it take you to complete this novel?
Probal: Early mornings are the best time when the mind is free of clutter and fear. And I could manage only three days of that. The rest happened at midnight as that was the only time I managed after my regular office work.
The gap between the first chapter and the second was about 3 years. Yes, it was that long, because I had to travel abroad for work and so the writing went into hibernation. After I resumed writing, three years later, it took me about a year and a half to write it completely.
Sanchita: This novel is your baby and I am sure you love every part of it, but if you were to choose one best scene in the story, which one would that be and why?
Probal: The story revolves around relationships, father-son, mother-daughter, social issues, apart from the core love story. Fathers are often portrayed as heartless and ambitious figures. Their struggles, their silence, their sacrifices often go unnoticed or are taken for granted. But every father has a soft side and maybe even a soft core that the world does not expect them to display. And that is something that bothers me a lot. While writing the father son relationship, I wanted to highlight and bring a sense of closure, in general, on the delicate and often misunderstood relationship between a father and son.
In my novel, Sidd’s father carries weight in his chest for decades thinking that he could have been a better friend and a better father to his son. Remorse for losing his wife early, prevented him from developing a deep bond he wanted to have with his son. The grief carried him away so much that although he loved his son deeply, he could never display that side of him clearly to his son. And that made him feel guilty. But finally when Sidd learns about the sacrifice his father had made for him, by even putting his life in danger for his son, the meaning of fatherhood became clear to Sidd. That was a moment of transformation, of learning, of understanding the true nature of human bonds, of values, of family. Articulating these moments within the story got my eyes wet many a times. The emotions
ran high within me and so they are very special to me.
Sanchita: Sneak peek into your next project.
Probal: I would probably come out with a collection of my poems or my next novel, whichever is ready first.
Rapid Fire Round (The first thought that comes to mind on hearing these words)
a. Past: Life
b. Mayhem: my room in college
c. Memories: childhood romance like the one in Key to My Soul.
d. Sentiment: Don’t hurt feelings
e. Death: Why the cycle of life and death?
About the Author
Probal Mazumdar works in an IT company. He is an NIT engineer by societal pressure, singer by accident, guitarist by love at first sound, poet by soul, writer by passion, a world class badminton player in childhood dreams, rebel by day, recluse by night, a samosa in a family of laddoos, a Jughead at the dining table, a shameless and congenital dreamer. Oh! An arsonist too – when his wife is not around, sets his own house on fire with his little son.
He won the FIRST prize in the All India Poetry Competition, 2014, conducted by PSI (Poetry Society of India). Click on www.indianpoetry.org/awardsgeneral14.htm
His other poems have risen too from cold storage into literary journals like Indian Literature (Sahitya Akademi), Wasafiri (U.K. Vol. 67), Acumen (U.K.), OtherPoetry (U.K.), Chandrabhaga Literary Journal (Editor Jayanta Mahapatra), Dhauli Review, amongst others.
He writes short stories too. This is his first foray into writing a novel.
His book 'Key to My Soul' is available at:
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